Question Wednesday: on self-confidence (seriously, it's not as boring as it sounds)

Last night I was talking to my friend about our perceptions of self and the issue of self-confidence. Thus the question: why is it that we are often genuinely generous when considering other people's physical appearances, and so harsh when considering our own?

I'm not as sure about boys, but I know that at least for girls, it's so much easier to love someone else's looks (“she has the perfect hair!" "her eyes are gorgeous!" "she is sooooo pretty!") than loving our own ("my hair is so flat." "my fingers are weird." "I have man shoulders.") Personally I have this terrible tendency as well, exaggerating every little flaw of my own, while I find it so easy to find something good about others. 

So, my question is, why? Why do we have to be so mean to ourselves?

xx

Vanessa :]

Question Wednesday: On self (selves?)

As you all know, I finished Paper Towns two nights ago (see review here), and I was having some real deep thoughts. Incidentally, I also recently engaged in a very thought-provoking conversation with a good friend of mine. So I've been thinking a lot, and I just thought it'd be nice to write down some of these thoughts here.

So, here's the question: say you know someone, you might even be friends with them. How different, then, is the "he/she" you know from the "he/she" he/she really is?

Confused? Okay. I guess essentially, what I'm saying is, you don't know if the person you know is really the person him/herself. And sometimes, if we're really lucky to be really close with someone else, our perceptions of this person could be really close to who the person really is deep inside. 

Interestingly enough, the person who I had this conversation with happens to be someone who we both think we know the real "each other." I guess I'm just one of the lucky few who gets to have such a great friendship.

Do you have a relationship like this? Do you think your friends are different from who you think they are? Dis-moi.

xx

Vanessa :]